Thursday, March 29, 2012

Immunity

We got to know several families through the bereaved family group we attended for about 18 months at Hopkins. What a benefit those meetings were, and what a blessing to get to know those other families. We stopped attending last fall, as life was getting very busy again, and we no longer felt the need to attend as pressing as it had been before. We have peripherally kept in touch with a few of the families.

We were shocked to receive notice that the father of one of the families had died. They had lost a daughter to cancer, and had told the other parents during sessions that Rick also was in treatment. He never discussed particulars, and seemed to not want to. But last we had heard he was doing well.

I am heartbroken for them.

There is always shock when a young parent dies. I would guess Rick was mid-40s, with three children and a wife who still need and love him. The seeming injustice of Rick's death is overwhelming. And terrifying. Of course, I know that Henry's death does not grant my family immunity from tragedy. But it sure as hell seems like it should. And Rick's death now, even after the death of his beloved daughter, doesn't shield his grieving family either.

In my ego- and species-centric mind it really, really should.

8 comments:

Arlene (AJ) said...

Oh my heart goes out to the family not only losing their loving daughter, but then to have the father/husband pass has to be so devastating on the family. I pray that as time passes they can find peace in their hearts and remembering the happy times will bring them some comfort.

Lorelei Armstrong said...

Wow. Life hands out more than anyone should have to bear. And then it does it again. A chance to reflect on what we still have and hug whoever we can and hold on tight.

SOCKS said...

I always enjoy your reflections.

Snickollet said...

I've always thought of it as some kind of punch card system, but the idea is the same, and total immunity would be even better.

I have so much empathy for that family, for all of those who have borne too much.

Power Wheelchairs said...

Wow. Life hands out more than anyone should have to bear. And then it does it again. A chance to reflect on what we still have and hug whoever we can and hold on tight.

Anonymous said...

It would sure be nice for an update after almost 3 months of silence. I would love to know how baby E is doing and also how your entire family is doing..:)

...tom... said...

...
hey there D-Smak...


Long time no read. That works out well ...as long time no write balances it perfectly. ...:minism:...

Glad to hear (at least from your previous post) that all goes well for you and yours. I hope that has continued over the months since you last posted.


...tom...

kris said...

still waiting for an update.. hope all is going well.